tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post6683603599333435915..comments2023-07-22T09:34:51.769-04:00Comments on My Baby Sweetness: Pregnancy, Parenting and Life: Dating and the Married MomBaby Sweetnesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03991472789690765964noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-19744451072375964992010-03-31T21:10:04.423-04:002010-03-31T21:10:04.423-04:00I can imagine how hard that is! I have no kids yet...I can imagine how hard that is! I have no kids yet...but I can only imagine! Hang in there! :)Jen @ After The Alterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08825940318681023321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-74340711537377467022010-03-31T11:53:27.222-04:002010-03-31T11:53:27.222-04:00I've been having these same issues since we re...I've been having these same issues since we recently moved across the country where I know no one and have no family. It's pretty isolating. I'm hoping the church thing will pay off and hopefully things will really get moving when my son starts preschool. ;)Gucci Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098520618133302969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-34499028686603235522010-03-31T10:08:40.182-04:002010-03-31T10:08:40.182-04:00My kids are older than yours (they are 8 and 9) bu...My kids are older than yours (they are 8 and 9) but I SO remember being in your shoes. The hubby and I had a not-so-brilliant idea: why not move across the country where neither of us know a soul and start a family? He got a great job--financially; otherwise not so great as it meant he had to travel overnight ALOT! And, not only was it a cross-country thing it was a cross-cultural thing. <br /><br />I kept thinking I was crazy--how could I feel so alone when I was with my kid(s) 24 hours a day? But I did feel it and I was lonely. I also hit that desparation for a fellow mom to hang with.<br /><br />I really have no sage advice except to just relax and let it happen naturally. Honest. What saved my sanity was that my kids are 13 months apart (it wasn't planned, but we love her anyway). I was so exhausted when she was a baby that I really didn't have the energy for that frantic search for fellow moms. Instead, I'd go to playgrounds and other public areas and let them play as much as they could or just sit in the double stroller while I fed them or something. After a while, I noticed I had moms as friends. I'm not sure how or exactly when, and I think it was a long while, but eventually it happened.<br /><br />Then we made another cross-country move, this time to the state where my husband grew up. I thought it would be easier because he knew people here. It wasn't. But I decided I wasn't going to make myself nuts. And eventually I made some great friends, just by relaxing and letting things happen on their own. <br /><br />The key is to Get Outside! I don't care what the weather is. I don't care if the only place you have to go is to the mall where you "mall walk" for exercise or sit on a bench and people watch with your kid. Find a park. Find a museum. Find a clean bench on a downtown road. Get out there and relax.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-35785875962802709632010-03-31T10:05:06.607-04:002010-03-31T10:05:06.607-04:00It does feel like dating, doesn't it?It does feel like dating, doesn't it?Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099425493742842588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-37048472104291070142010-03-31T04:46:44.705-04:002010-03-31T04:46:44.705-04:00Ahh I just lost my blog comment. There's somet...Ahh I just lost my blog comment. There's something wrong with blogger I think. Anyway what I said was, thanks for the comment yesterday. <br />I think there a lot more mums out there than you may think feeling the same way. And you deserve a dignity point for all your efforts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-31985270395171083042010-03-31T00:37:11.777-04:002010-03-31T00:37:11.777-04:00I was so lucky...I had three best friends, and we ...I was so lucky...I had three best friends, and we all got pregnant with our first kids at the same time (no we didn't plan it). all 4 kids were boys, and three of the four were born within a month of each other. So i kind of had a built-in playgroup. other than that, i meet moms at church. i feel for you -- i don't know what i would do with myself if i couldn't inflict my terror of a two year-old son on some other poor mom at least one day of the week. good luck!alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03253874481592439790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-31136918804927410232010-03-30T19:46:27.958-04:002010-03-30T19:46:27.958-04:00I totally know how you feel. In fact, reading the...I totally know how you feel. In fact, reading the process you went through sounded a lot like my own. I still struggle with finding moms that I want to spend time with during the day. I must say, though, that sometimes I get tired of being with moms whose kids are too close in age to my own little guy. I feel like it's a constant comparison of what the kids are like and our parenting techniques. It's exhausting. It's nice to have those friends so they can relate to what you're going through, but on the other hand kids develop at very different rates and have very different personalities, so they might not relate at all! I think that it's been helpful to find a couple people who had more than one child or a child significantly older or younger than mine, too. They're not my new best friends, either, but they do help me fill the time with a little laughter and a break in the monotony.<br /><br />Can't wait to read more about your dating adventures! I should work on my own and blog about it, too. : )Jessica {Team Rasler}https://www.blogger.com/profile/03605645521225532592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-12999368601954123132010-03-30T16:19:22.109-04:002010-03-30T16:19:22.109-04:00I started a blog all about my love for my daughter...I started a blog all about my love for my daughter. Haha!<br /><br />I totally know how you feel! The only thing that is sometimes worse is trying to stay connected with old friends who don't have kids yet...it's like we live on two different planets!<br /><br />My hubby and I are relocating soon...I'm going to file these tips away for my not-too-distant-future notice.Grace's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06934486826691166709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723243290482212941.post-50252148007912152322010-03-30T16:07:56.798-04:002010-03-30T16:07:56.798-04:00I had worked for twenty two years when my daughter...I had worked for twenty two years when my daughter was born and only been living in the US for two years with no family here at all. So when I decided to stay home and not go back to work I found myself completely on my own, all day long every day of the week. I decided I had to do something about it for the sake of my sanity and also because I wanted my daughter to socialize with other people and eventually make little friends of her own. It was really hard - talking to Moms with babies of similar age in the grocery store or at a restaurant etc doesn't really work. I never tried any Moms clubs but for some people these can and do work really well. What I did was take my daughter to the local library story time for babies and later for toddlers and there I met some nice Moms and we formed a play date group there. I also tried some different Mommy and baby classes at My Gym, KinderMusik and Gymboree and made some friends that way too. You have to go places and do things that other Moms with babies do, but in an environment where you get a chance to talk also. Hope that helps! I know how hard it can be but keep persevering, there are lots of other Moms feeling exactly the same out there and wishing they could find some new friends too!One Photohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05793386254564806126noreply@blogger.com